“Not having sex has rarely been a problem for me because I had little to no desire for it,” she says.Now that she’s been in a committed relationship for more than a year, confronting the idea of sex is a problem for her, which she blames partly on her conservative upbringing and abstinence-only sex education.
But that doesn’t mean that a lagging libido is something you just have to put up with.
If you’ve noticed a sudden drop in your desire to get it on, or if it’s an ongoing problem that’s causing stress in your relationship or your life, you can do something about it.
“Perhaps the woman is dealing with low self-esteem, comparing herself with other women she knows or to media generated impressions of sexually active women,” Sumber says.
“Additionally, if a woman is interested in a partner whom she knows is not ‘right’ for her, it can be emotionally challenging to get her body on board.” With so many complicated factors influencing sex drive, it can be especially difficult for a woman to figure out why exactly her sex drive is plummeting.
I'm 21; I feel like I shouldn't feel this way until I'm 40.” : Psychological Causes But don’t be fooled: while it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that sexual desire is a purely physical reaction, physical causes only scratch the surface of all the factors that affect a woman’s sex drive.