You can’t spend all your time unraveling every problem that comes up so it kind of gets layered on top and it gets harder and harder to undo and get back to the real reason you guys are together.
Believe it or not, as a birthday gift we were given a visit by a wonderful psychic and I have to say whether she was psychic or incredibly intuitive, but she really saw what was going on in our relationship and not only that, she wasn’t going to leave until we acknowledged what was going on and vowed to change it.
After he died a girlfriend said, ‘you’re a pretty woman but one that looks like she’s been hit by a truck,’ and I felt like that. Every day that you get out of bed is going to make you stronger whether you like it or not. You can never forget but it doesn’t mean you can’t have good days and I have more and more of them as time goes by.
His journey is lovingly and honestly portrayed by his widow Lisa Niemi in her book ‘Worth Fighting For Love, Loss, and Moving Forward.’ In it, Swayze's wife of 34 years writes about her caregiver role, all the medical procedures and those awful final days.
FOX411: You have harsh words to say about the tabloid coverage of your husband's illness.
Niemi: I was really grateful that we entered into fighting his illness from such a position of strength. I found that it got to be not a problem because my desire was so great to help him and I was so happy for every moment he was there for me.
He knew that he could lean on me unequivocally and completely and in return I knew I could absolutely open my heart to him. FOX411: It’s amazing he shot ‘The Beast’ after he was diagnosed.
In early 2008 the world was shocked by Patrick Swayze’s announcement that he had pancreatic cancer.