As no one class of entertainments is given always under the same conditions, it is well to allow the hostess to choose whether she will add or omit the request for a reply to her invitations.
There will be fabulous food and scintillating conversation. "Imagine you are standing face to face with a friend, coworker, neighbor, relative, in-law, whomever... In fact, there is no discernible response on his or her face. You walk away confused, hurt, angry or ____________ (you fill in the blank). I had always assumed that people were lazy by not responding to RSVP requests, or simply rude by responding that they'd be coming and then not showing up, or vice versa. Isn't that where my phone number is supposed to go?
You invite your him or her to your _____________ (birthday party, wedding, anniversary party, all expense paid vacation to some delightful destination... It gets uncomfortable You restate the invitation, adding, "I really need to know if you can come, as there is ___________________ (a lot of planning involved, a lot of expense involved, a limited guest list, a short amount of time to get your passport and visa in order... This is exactly what happens when people do not respond to written invitations! As it turned out, I found the majority of people are ignorant to the actual meaning of an RSVP request. " Even cashiers who took business checks from me would often ask (and some still do) similar questions. " Or the times my siblings and I hosted 75th birthday parties for our parents.
In the former case, if we accept, we should first leave a card in order to open the acquaintance.“The answer to invitations to dine, accepting or declining, should be sent immediately, and are always addressed to the lady.
If, after you have accepted an invitation, anything occurs to render it impossible for you to go, the lady should be informed of it immediately.
An engraved form to be filled in is vulgar—nothing could be in worse taste than to flaunt your popularity by announcing that it is impossible to answer your numerous invitations without the time-saving device of a printed blank.