Research also shows that herpes simplex infections are often spread by people who don't know they are infected.
These people may have symptoms so mild they don't notice them at all or else don't recognize them as herpes.
Because you are hesitant about when to reveal your status, please visit the ASHA website (ashasexualhealth.org). It includes a section on relationships, suggestions about when to tell someone, how to talk to a partner, reactions to expect, etc.
Another website that has been mentioned in my column before is
Similarly, if you have active genital herpes and have vaginal or anal intercourse, you can give your partner genital herpes.