Sometimes things have more depth than what we may think. It may seem like a small thing, but what I’m thinking is that could you not replace it with “preference” and still have your piece read the same? Now, they may be right, but I wonder where the line is drawn? I would never entertain a non-Christian in any way other than as a friend.In fact, my stomach kind of turned as I wrote that. Merriam-Webster defines prejudice as, “an irrational attitude of hostility directed against an individual, a group, a race, or their supposed characteristics.” There’s also “‘(1) : preconceived judgment or opinion (2) : an adverse opinion or leaning formed without just grounds or before sufficient knowledge” and “an instance of such judgment or opinion.” This isn’t about preferences, the part where I specifically mentioned fat prejudice.When I hear people say they don’t want to date someone who’s overweight, it simply reeks of fat prejudice.
I mean, I do all the cooking and I always encourage “fit dates” – by that, I mean “dates that don’t revolve around food” – so, as long as he didn’t have the weird attachment to food (read: emotional eating) that I had and as long as he was willing to learn and adapt to my habits, there was no problem with his size, for me.
All throughout my life, I’d never really chosen mates based on their appearance.
He wasn’t approaching it from the standpoint of “oh my gosh how did you do it so I can do it too,” it was just from a “if I’m going to be a part of this woman’s life, this is what I’m going to have to accommodate” perspective… I had to meet him where he was and he had to do the same for me – compromise, yay – which eventually resulted in us doing five mile walk/runs a day as a family – which turned out to be a great bonding experience for my daughter and him – and a much healthier, happier him, also losing a little weight in the process.
To make an unnecessarily long story short, the problem isn’t the weight.
Things like “great father figure,” “compromising” and “brilliant thinker” rank awfully high. (But if The Rock happens to give me a call, someday… Or let’s just hope my almost-Hubby is pretty understanding.) The proud leader of the #bgg2wlarmy, Erika Nicole Kendall writes food and fitness, body image and beauty, and more here at #bgg2wl.