Using my original method for dating (one girl a month at best), my odds of meeting that special someone were very low and theoretically it would have taken a long time to meet her. The issue here is the length of time only identifies part of the problem as it assumes that the “match” won’t move on to something else: a new job that she wouldn’t have been taken had she been in a relationship, settling for someone just to not be alone, etc.
On one occasion when things were going very poorly, instead of stressing out, I told my date I didn’t think we were a great match but that we could still have fun over dinner.
She seemed relieved and agreed to try to enjoy the dinner.
Around the eighth month of my online dating experience, I gave up on my “sincere” method of meeting girls and intentionally tried to meet as many girls as possible at once.
For the first few weeks, things were similar to my old method and I didn’t see immediate improvements but over time my dating life changed .
I was discovering which conversations worked better than others and was able to avoid bumps in the conversation all together.