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Since this old standby is not getting you to where you want to be, you may want to add to this position without tossing it out.
Eye contact can also intensify the experience between loving partners.
Special note: You can also remain on your back and your man can reverse position so that your feet line up with his face. Pick up a copy of the first African American Kama Sutra book, Soul Mates: An Illustrated Guide to Black Love, Sex, and Romance.
For some women this kind of penetration is too intense, others report pleasure. Explore out of the box sexual paths like tantra or some 50 Shades of Grey style BDSM.
a) Sitting up on the kitchen counter will give you great balance and control. If he needs access assistance, there is nothing wrong with him standing on a small stool or something else. Either you or him can provide extra stimulation for you, manually or with a small vibrator. Be near the bedhead so that you can hold on to it with one hand if needed.