She may end up being grateful to him for allowing her to be her true self in his presence.
Although the 30 woman (worn out/settled down/covered in parmesan and kid puke, if Bryony’s column is anything to by) may have given up her high maintenance ways, we 20-somethings are more demanding than ever.
Even when I look at my female friendships, the women who I have clicked with most throughout my life have been the easygoing, laid back types. Eventually, I learned to love who I was at my core, and embrace the fact that a good fit for me partner-wise would be someone who cherished the dominant parts of me and didn't compete with them.
But a relationship with that Alpha male who many strong women have always fantasized would bring them happiness perhaps isn't always the best complement to their dominant nature.
If an Alpha woman finds someone who happens to be easygoing, a bit on the passive side, isn't threatened by her strength and actually seems to adore her for it, I encourage her to give him a chance and open her heart to him.
It's not a matter of who is perfect; it's a matter of in what environment does he thrive and what environment do I do well.
If you give a plant exactly what it needs, it will do really well and it will take care of you, but you have to understand how that plant works.
Frankly, I’m too busy adoring and validating myself for any of that. And does it make me a "bad investment", relationship-wise? My standards are high, I'm unforgiving and often dismiss men without giving them enough of a chance, shooting myself in the foot.